Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, There is this girl that I know for a little while. At first I didn't fall for her or think of her in that way. I guess she have been hinting me this whole time, and just recently I started to piece the hints together. I just don't want to assume that she likes me, because if she don't that would put me in a bad spot. What should I do to find out if she likes me or not? We don't talk a lot, and we barely see each other. I think she is an amazing person. What should i do?

If you don’t talk to her as often, maybe it’s time to change that! Ask her to hang out with you and spend some time getting to know each other—even if it’s on the friend level.  This will give you more of an idea on whether or not she really likes you and if you really like her.

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, I'm having some trouble. There's this guy I like, but there's two problems. He likes this girl who is bad for him and does nothing but break his head over and over. Then, the second one is, he doesn't know who I am. I don't know what to do or how to explain, because it makes me sound pretty lame. But he's all I want and he's perfect for me. Help me please.

I think that the first thing you need to do is actually get to know him.  Introduce yourself to him—tell him that you’ve seen him around.  Before you start making any assumptions on whether or not he is perfect for you, get to know him beyond what you see on the outside.  It’s time for you to make the first move.  Go for it!

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dear Juliet, i've lived in the same place my whole life and everyone sees me as the funny weird girl. but really i'm very sad because no one bothers to know get to know the real me. all i want is someone to take the time to know me as more than the comic relief. my whole life has been one big "let's all laugh at katie" rather than "hey i like you let's be friends" and i try so hard to be close to people but the minute i try and be serious they hear what i say but no one listens. i'm alone here.

I can tell that you probably feel really lonely and that it must get really frustrating when people just laugh at you.  In life, you must realize that not everyone is going to like you—it happens for all of us—we all have those people.  However, the best advice I could give you is to stop trying so hard to impress people to like you. Be yourself and the right people will come along and like you for who you really are.  Now, this doesn’t mean sit back and don’t do anything—but try your best at being you.  Good luck!

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, there's this guy I used to like back in 2010. Apparently, he liked me too but I didn't know that. I fell for another guy, he started courting a new girl. I got my heart broken, he got the girl. They've been together for two years now. They broke up last October. He brought me home from a class gathering one late night, and it's felt different for me ever since. They got back together a day after. I was frustrated for hoping. I wanted to tell him what I felt, so I did. No reaction

If he didn’t answer, he probably needs time to think.  It might be wise to bring it up again some other time with him.  Be sure to do it in a way where he doesn’t feel pressured… perhaps something like, “So the other day, I told you how I felt and I didn’t really get a reaction.  I’d really like to know what you think about it…” 

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dear Juliet: i met someone through tumblr, we are great friends but i have developed feelings for him, i don't want to risk our friendship knowing even if the feelings are mutual there is little we can do to make it work, it helped that life caught him busy and away from tumblr so i can move on, but then i see his icon on my dash and my heart aches all over again, i just want those feelings to go away and keep my friendship, Help!

It’s always hard to try and make yourself not have feelings for someone, especially when they have developed to the point where you realize them.  The best you can do in this situation might be to avoid contact for a while. Yes, I know that’s hard, but it might be good for you if you really feel that the best decision is to rid your feelings.  Try meeting new people and make new friendships/relationship! Good luck!

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, I had someone perfect for me. Even though we were in a long distance relationship, it was great. And I fell for someone else. You see, I get attached to someone that I can help. It's almost instantaneous, and I don't know how to stop it. Now the perfect someone still loves me and I still love her, but I can't figure out what to do with how I feel about the other person, because I care about her equally. I care about both of them and I'm really confused. Please, help?

Consider where you see yourself 5 years from now.  Which girl is there? Who do you see yourself with in the future? 

You obviously know that you can’t have them both.  My best advice would be to be with the person who makes you feel more whole, more you, and makes you a better person.  Relationships are all about building each other up.  Hope this helps!  Good luck!

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, I'm 15 years old. Never have I ever been in a relationship. Boys don't seem to like me that way. Sometimes I'm okay with this fact but other times I'm not. I've been told that I would be a 40 year old virgin, lady with 40 cats. I know I'm young but I do get worrysome, what if guys never start taking an interest in me. Oh Juliet, any advice/comment would be lovely.

Time is so powerful and many people don’t give it a chance.  I’m glad that you realize you are young, but you don’t have to worry about relationships at this point of your life.  There is someone out there for everyone!  Patience and confidence is all you need.

Juliet

Anonymous asked: Dearest Juliet, if you feel like what you had with a person is true and good and real but distance is keeping you from being a couple, is love worth waiting for even if the time seems indefinite?

If it is true, good, and real, then yes—it is totally worth waiting for! I urge you to try and visit each other though! Make it happen. Don’t wish you could be with each other—do it!

Juliet